More labels

BDSM embraces a wide variety of people and behaviors. The range is broad, and few if any precisely fit any accepted labels. Thinking about this began me thinking about what parts interest me personally.

From a D/s standpoint, it is definitely a connundrum. I am a very assertive, stubborn and even aggressive person most times both at work and in my personal life. No shy retiring flower am I. I am the one likely to take charge in any situation I don't see enough of a leader present to make things happen. There are times when this has been an issue, but overall, this is something I like about myself.

From a more personal, sexual standpoint, I can also be quite aggressive at times. But, there are times when I prefer to be more passive. I've noticed that the higher the general stress level in my life overall, the more likely I am to be much less aggressive sexually. There is something freeing about not being in charge - in having someone take on that responsibility themselves for me.

On top of any currents in my life, there is also respect as well. The dominant side of me comes out much more when around people I don't see as capable, or don't respect personally. I have too much pride and too much personal confidence to give that sort of gift to anyone incapable of comprehending what is given. But I am also drawn to be more dominant with those younger folks who come across as less experienced. In both cases I think it feels more to me to have some undertones of a teacher/student or mentor relationship. The one, knowledgeable and experienced and the other, enthusiastic and naive.

Switch seems the best word for now, though I'll also allow that I've not had the experience level to prove out that one. I suppose only time will tell.